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postheadericon How Can I Build My Confidence And Become Effective At Speaking?

I am 25, and work in a professional company. I do find that I am effective at speaking to people on on one on one basis but when it comes to meetings I am SO ineffective. I seem to hide behind a very low toned voice, say very little, have very few questions or ideas. Because of this I do not feel whole. How can this be corrected to build confidence and also to talk more effectively? (I need to be more aware and intelligent I guess).

One Response to “How Can I Build My Confidence And Become Effective At Speaking?”

  • No, you don’t need to be more intelligent or aware.
    Don’t be worried if you have few questions or ideas. It doesn’t make you ineffective just because you couldn’t think of any.
    Whenever you have to speak, listen to yourself. Imagine you’re sitting at the other end of the room, can you hear someone else speak in the tone you’re using now? Stop thinking about all those pairs of eyes (and glasses) focused on you, and focus on what you want to say, making sure that everyone can hear you. Look one person in the eye at first (preferably the asker), and increase that number as your confidence increases, starting with friendly colleagues. The important thing about looking people in the eye when speaking is to not concentrate on their facial expression. Imagine instead that the words you want to say are written on their faces.
    Judging people’s reactions by looking them in the eye is something i recommend for when your confidence level has really improved. Until then, just use their faces as your teleprompter, and keep asking yourself ‘can the guy at the back of the room hear me?’ (it’s not so much about your opinion being heard by everyone, it’s about being considerate to ensure he hears what’s being said too)

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